Relationship Savvy » Dating

Rules For Flirting With a Guy – Tricks That Will Really Turn His Head

Jennifer — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 11:36:03 +0000

Is there a set of rules to govern flirting with a guy? Are you aware of how your words and your body language can send messages? Do you want to learn how to show him that you are interested without saying it outright? Men and women have been practicing the art of flirting since the dawn of time. If you have been thinking that only those who are naturals can become great flirters, you are wrong. Anyone can learn the rules of flirting with a guy to make him like you. Here are some tips to help you get started.

Eye contact

Rule number one to successful flirting is making eye contact. How else will he know that you have set your sights on him in the first place? If you let your eyes linger over him for a moment, this can be a very powerful tool to getting the point across that you have noticed him and like what you see. Hold his gaze for a few seconds before you look away.

Dazzle Him

No one can resist a well intentioned smile. It not only lights up your face and makes you look your ultimate best, but it suggests that you have a sunny and fun personality to go along with it. Smiling may seem too common to you to seem like it counts as flirting, but it is actually one of the key elements of successful non-verbal communication.

Appeal to His Senses

When you are ready to take it to the next level of flirtation, heighten his senses by touching him. There is definitely a right and a wrong way to do this and you don’t want to mess with the wrong way. Never grab him or come on too strong. Instead, lightly brush his arm with your fingers or lean against him for an instant, then move away. You want to stimulate his senses, but then leave him longing to feel your touch again.

Whatever you do, always be natural. Don’t bat your eyes at him like a cartoon character or fawn all over him as if he were a Greek god. Acting like that shouldn’t even be called flirting, and he certainly will not find it attractive if you are acting the fool. The most important thing that you can learn about flirting with a guy is to be yourself and be subtle. Less here is always more.

Imagine what if you could make any man adore you, chase you, love you, and commit to you? Click Unforgettable Woman Advice and learn 77 Secrets that ninety percent of women have never heard. You have got to see this!

This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

Dating: Saying “No” is Not Rejection

Jennifer — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:15:33 +0000

How many people do you know who can not tell someone they are dating that they do not want to see them any more?

How many couples do you know who continue to date, are not making a commitment and one or both of them are miserable being together?

Why do you suppose that intelligent, capable and otherwise successful men and women do not tell the truth when they no longer want to spend time together and build a life with another person?

Men and women from the U.S. and Canada to the U.K. to Australia and New Zealand tell me the very same thing:

· I can’t tell him that I don’t want to be with him anymore…it sounds so mean

· I don’t want to hurt her feelings

· I can’t just reject him, he’s such a nice guy

· She won’t understand…she’ll be so upset and she’s very sweet

· People say I’m being too picky…that I am actually very lucky to be dating such a wonderful…

Please remember you are dating. Dating is a process. You are dating to find your ideal match. Recognizing that the men and women you are dating are not a match for you is the point of the process.

It is highly likely that you will date a number of people who will not be your ideal match before you and the love of your life find each other. As soon as you recognize that your date is not your ideal match, stop the dating process.

You will not be the ideal match for the overwhelming majority of people who date you! When men or women you date recognize that you are not a match for them, they will (hopefully) stop the dating process…they will stop dating you.

There is no “rejecting” or “rejection” going on here. No one is being mean or hurting the feelings of others when one stops dating someone who is not the ideal match. Mindful adults are making mindful decisions with volition and intention about the “who” and the “how” of the rest of their lives. It is as simple as that.

Go out, keep dating and don’t settle or accept good enough. Your ideal love is a very special man or woman who will not be interchangeable with anyone else.

Trust that it can be fabulous; that you can have what you want!
Say goodbye as soon as you know what you know, deep in the place where you know it!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

If you like this article, please read more about
Dr. Jackie’s relationship dating advice and help for issues and problems.

Dr. Jackie is an internationally recognized relationship expert, educator and coach. Advice and coaching about personal relationships is Dr. Jackie’s passion. Her goal is to inspire and support single men, single women and couples through the challenges and pitfalls of dating, loving and building lasting, committed relationships in today’s fast-paced world. Dr. Jackie’s Relationship Coaching Programs and Groups, her Blog, downloadable PodCasts and her Internet streaming radio show are jam-packed with valuable dating tips and strategies.

Check out Dr. Jackie’s Podcasts here: http://www.relationshiptalkpodcast.com

Check out Dr. Jackie’s Blog here: http://www.askdrjackie.com

Relationship recession survival guide

Jennifer — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 19:38:36 +0000

How to battle money not your honey

(ARA) – Summer is all about spontaneous getaways, romantic interludes and young love, but the current economic condition can take its toll on your relationship. With financial stresses at an all time high, it’s often easy to put your romance on the backburner. In fact, 43 percent of U.S. couples say the recession has caused them to argue more often and primarily about finances, according to a recent survey by PayPal.

“Everyone is looking for ways to cope with the recession — whether it’s dinner on a budget, staying on top of your game at work, or cutting back on travel, and in the midst of trying to find these solutions, relationships are sometimes the first thing that suffers,” says Microsoft senior product manager, Karin Muskopf. “MSN.com put together a recession survival kit that offers our readers simple tips for coping with the stress of the economy, including a special section with tips and tricks on how to keep your relationship fresh and stress-free during the tough times.”

There are also some interesting ways to keep spending to a minimum and fun to a maximum, such as date night ideas for under $15.

* Watching the Sun Set: Like our love lives, it’s easy to overlook the beautiful things that happen around us every day. Watch the sun go down and share kisses under the stars.
Blanket to sit on: $6
Sunglasses: $2/each at your local drugstore
Lemonade: $1/each
Total: $15

* People-watching: Not all dates have to be steamy. Simply spending time together is what dating is all about. Pick a beautiful day to sit on a bench in a park and marvel at the wonders of nature.
Bottle of wine: $8
Plastic cups: $3
Bench: free
Marveling at the wonders of the public: More fun than you think
Total: $11

* Movie Night with Friends: Miss the wild abandon of your college days? Have the gang over for beers and movie — but save the make-out session for later.
Renting “Old School”: $5
Inviting your friends over: free
Going old school and having people throw in beer money at the door: awesome
Going streaking through the quad: optional
Popcorn for 20: $10
Total: $15

Other simple and affordable tips from MSN include:

* Stay on the same team: Remember you are not mad at each other, you are mad at the invisible enemy — money. Expressing disagreement, distress, and anger is part of problem solving. But, there’s healthy confrontation and then there’s kicking someone when he or she is down. Use your fingers for grabbing hands and holding on, not pointing. You’re in this together.

* Withdraw your identity from your bank account: We measure a lot in this society by the wealth a person appears to have. When it feels like the rest of the world is looking down, be the one who keeps your mate’s chin up. Affirm other kinds of success: friendship, parenting, a talent. Everyone needs to hear the words, “I believe in you,” and more so in times of self-doubt.

* Maintain a one-man-down policy with each other: If one is feeling depressed or anxious, the other has to stay up on his or her end of the seesaw.

* Reach out: Let friends and family in on what is going on with you and your financial situation. It will open the door to a flood of support. Admitting you are vulnerable will allow others to let down their own facade of “fine, thank you.”

* Take time out from worry: As with checking accounts, you aren’t always able to put into your relationship what is taken out. It’s hard to afford romance and intimacy when you are consumed by worry. Set aside time for you and your significant other, to enjoy time-out from worry.

* Always kiss each other good night: Don’t let the magic fade with overpowering conversations of the economic downturn, keep the romance alive, and never forget to kiss each other good night.

For additional tips on how to survive the recession, check out the MSN Recession Survival Guide at savings.msn.com.

Courtesy of ARAcontent

A Guide to Yahoo Dating

Author — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 03:14:37 +0000

Of all the online options available to you when it comes to dating, Yahoo dating is definitely one of the best. With Yahoo dating you can find that special someone quickly and easily and without any hassle. All you need to do is go onto the Yahoo dating website, fill in a bit of personal information, and you are well on your way to finding a perfect partner.

Yahoo dating is just one of the many options available to you however, and so if you go through the Yahoo dating site and find that you are looking for something else, then there are a few other dating sites you may want to check out.

Your Other Options

Besides Yahoo dating there are a few great dating websites that you may want to go through. Other than the Yahoo dating company one of the top dating companies on the Internet is Plenty of Fish. They are a completely free online dating site that is constantly improving and they are actually the only major dating site that allows their users to block messages from whole groups of users that they are not interested in.

They are definitely different and because they are one of the largest dating sites out there you know that you will have a lot of members to choose from and therefore have a much better chance of finding that special someone.

Netclub is another great option, and their mission is to facilitate the online dating experience for you and make it as simple and hassle free as possible. Whether you are looking to meet a lifelong partner or just a friend, they simplify your life and help you to find that special someone.

With more than 3 million ads worldwide the company is one of the largest and will without a doubt meet your needs, whatever those may be.

Remember

Regardless of which particular dating service you decide to go through, the most important thing is that you take the time to know what you are doing and take the proper steps to ensure your safety and privacy. Never give out your personal information until you feel comfortable with someone, and never agree to meet anyone unless you do so in a busy place.

Going through a dating company can be completely safe and successful as long as you take the proper precautions and do not rush things. Who knows, you may just meet the love of your life.

Be Careful With Interracial Dating Sites

Author — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 03:07:43 +0000

Anytime you try and discuss any issue that has to do with race, you will always get your share of intelligent conversation and then your fair share of ignorant rhetoric filled with hate and stupidity. The appearance of interracial dating sites is an encouraging sign for those of us who don’t really care what the color of a person’s skin is. But interracial dating sites are still a hot topic in areas of the United States known for prejudice. If you are planning on using any interracial dating sites then you want to take some precautions and make sure that you are not getting yourself into any trouble, or not inviting trouble by being too naïve. As hard as it is for many of us to accept, there are still many people who will do anything to advance their ignorant agendas.

The upside of interracial dating sites is that you get to meet all kinds of people from different walks of life that you may not normally come in contact with. Or you may find yourself getting involved in new circles of friends and people that you find interesting and that you can benefit a great deal from. That can be said of all dating sites and not just interracial dating sites. You will always meet people that run in different circles than you do and no matter how small the town you live in is you always seem to find a diverse group of people on interracial dating sites or any dating website you may find.

A Sad Reality

Usually you can count on dating websites that require payment for membership to protect you from criminals and scum of the earth, but sometimes it is not as easy for interracial dating sites to weed out the evil people. You just have to be careful and take things slowly like you would with any other type of dating situation. When meeting new people that you met online, make sure you take the same precautions you would if you were going on any other sort of trip. Make sure your friends know where you are going and even have then call you once in a while to make sure you are okay. This is good advice for a first meeting from any online dating website, so please take it.

Dating sites are great if used properly. You can meet all kinds of new people and enlarge your circle of friends. Just be careful of the criminals of the world that think that they are better served by being a predator on a website rather than being a productive person.

Make Your Interracial Dating Experience a Learning Experience Too!

Author — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 03:07:12 +0000

You have just started dating a wonderful guy, and have so far only done the standard “dinner and movie” dates. However, since you two are an interracial couple, you should also start finding out more about each other’s cultures as well. So, start making your interracial dating experience one in which you have both romantic as well as educational experiences!

An Interracial Dating Suggestion: The Life Story

When going out to dinner, what are some things that couples generally discuss? While a popular topic of conversation is mutual likes and dislikes, as you get to know each other better, the topic usually changes to life stories. Sometimes life stories can be uncomfortable to relate, but really it is all about making sure the two of you are each comfortable enough to be open with each other.

So, when the time comes for the two of you to share life stories, begin by asking your boyfriend about his culture. Now, just because the two of you are interracially dating does not mean that he necessarily follows the traditional beliefs of his race, but if he does, this certainly gives you the opportunity to learn interesting things.

For example, if you are an Asian woman from the United States dating a Greek man who was originally from Greece, you have many things to discuss! First of all, this interracial dating experience lends itself well to discussions of food. Both the Asian and Greek cultures are known for delicious food, and the two of you can discuss your respective favorites.

Interracial Dating: A Hands-on Learning Experience

So, if food is a topic of interest for both of you, instead of making plans to go to dinner at standard restaurants, make plans to takes turns going to restaurants that serve traditional Asian and Greek food. In fact, if you like to cook, you might even be inspired to try some of the recipes that you eat at these restaurants!

Another aspect of interracial dating usually has to do with various cultural holidays. This is yet another way to sample some of your boyfriend’s beliefs. It is also an interesting way to get to know what makes him the person he is, since culture is very important in shaping this aspect.

Remember, not only can you learn from him, but he can also learn from you, so make sure that your relationship is one that the two of you approach with an open mind. While you can read all about different cultures, it certainly is not the same as experiencing it for yourself. So, have fun, and enjoy your interracial dating experiences!

Internet Dating: Things You Can do to Stay Safe

Author — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 03:06:43 +0000

As strange as it sounds, gone are the days when dating had to take place in person. Nowadays, people with busy careers simply cannot find the time to properly date. They always have a computer around, however, and so they have turned to internet dating to try to meet a special someone.

However, while internet dating seems like an excellent alternative to forgoing the stress of trying to meet people, it is also one that can be dangerous. While you can get a general idea of someone’s character when you meet them face to face, the internet is rife with anonymity, and you might not be actually talking to the person that you thought you were. So, if you are interested in the internet dating scene, there are some things that you should do to protect your safety.

Internet Dating: How Much Information is Too Much Information?

When you post an advertisement on the internet looking for a date, you have no doubt seen other advertisements in which people have posted almost everything they can, including personal information such as phone numbers. You have no idea who is perusing internet dating websites, so never post any personally identifiable information.

Something else that you should think about is how you portray yourself on the internet. You can literally become anyone you want, especially if you have no intention of meeting people in real life. However, when it comes to internet dating, you really should always be yourself. Too many people pretend to be something that they are not, and as a result people often end up developing feelings for people that are not who they say they are.

When it comes to the picture, make sure that if you decide to include a picture in your dating profile, it should be as recent as possible. Also, if you would like to have a bit of anonymity, place a picture on your dating profile that has only a profile of your face. As you get to know someone better, you will be able to swap pictures later on.

You have probably seen many different websites offering internet dating services. Choose the website that you feel has the highest amount of security, the best reputation, and the highest rate of success. The entire topic of internet dating is a controversial one, but at the same time it is an interesting one.

Many couples have met online who would never have met otherwise. So, when deciding to try internet dating, do not take anything seriously at first, keep your guard up, and, above all, make sure that you stay safe.

Ever Hear Of International Dating?

Author — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 03:06:14 +0000

There are a lot of stories out there about dating that many people never get to hear but that many other people are living every day. Some of them are wonderful stories of triumph of love and others are sad stories about separation or even a little bit pathetic when it comes to long distance relationships. Many of these unheard stories revolve around international dating and some of them are interesting to hear and others will just make your scratch your head and wonder if love can really conquer all or if desperation can make some people do strange things. Whatever the case, international dating makes for some interesting stories and some very interesting people.

The Fortunes Of War

Sometimes international dating is made necessary because of soldiers that are transplanted during wars or tours. These soldiers will either carry on their relationships they are leaving behind at home while they are overseas, or they will start dating someone in their war zone. Then they will have a tough choice to make when the war is finally over. In these cases, international dating can be very difficult because people back home can find it difficult to know what their loved ones are doing while at war. When soldiers are sent home they have to leave their new loved one behind sometimes in a war that is still going on and that can be just as difficult. This kind of international dating can be truly difficult and can test the limits of one’s patience.

Smile For The Camera

The internet has created some wonderful things and it has created some very strange things. One of the things created by the internet is an outlet for people that are afraid of actual contact but still crave a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with finding a special someone through an internet dating site, but there are there a lot of strange people, too. First of all the leap of faith you take to believe that someone thousands of miles away is what they say they are is amazing — and international dating on the internet is a total leap of faith. You just better hope that your Ivana doesn’t turn out to really be an Ivan.

There are a lot of angles to the international dating story and some of them are practical and some are just plain bizarre. But however you look at it there is no denying the power of love even across the miles.

Try And Avoid Great Expectations When Dating

Author — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:03:55 +0000

Sometimes when people start dating, they get involved in what I like to call great expectations dating. And this has nothing to do with any literary masterpieces by Charles Dickens. Great expectations dating is when you make an attempt to date out of your league or you believe that in dating out of your league you are getting someone that is right for you. When someone is out of your league it has nothing to do with looks and has nothing to do with necessarily better or worse quality people. It has to do with people that are just so different that it isn’t going to work. The nerdy scientist with the bad acne dating the supermodel is great expectations dating because they are both out of each other’s league. But every once in a while you need to engage in great expectations dating to really appreciate what it means to find your match.

A really good example of great expectations dating is found every day on dating websites or with standard dating services. People that really do not know what they want are throwing out ideas of what they think they want others to hear. The rough and tough construction worker may not mix well with the soft spoken type but he thinks that is what he wants and he is engaging in great expectations dating because there is a really good chance that it just isn’t going to work. The busy and successful businessman probably won’t mix well with the alcoholic female NASCAR fan even though that may be what he thinks he wants. It goes along with the old saying that says you have to test drive a lot of cars before you find the one you want.

Not All Bad

Sometimes great expectations dating can bring about perfect matches that you would never expect. The quiet little optometrist who winds up dating his well endowed female secretary may hit it off great and find themselves happy together for years to come. That is why everyone should try more than their fair share of great expectations dating because you just never know. You may find that curvy model looking female that can talk quantum physics with you and finds that snorting noise you make when you laugh really attractive. You won’t know until you try.

It is things like great expectations dating that keep people out there looking for that special someone because how can you know what that special someone is supposed to be like until you have dated a few not-so-special-someones?

Things You Should Know About Teen Dating

Author — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 03:14:13 +0000

Teenagers are under extreme peer pressure to be in a love relationship or to be dating. Unfortunately, numerous teenagers have not been well guided, and some are already been pressured into sex, stuck in abusive relationships, and heartbroken and depressed. Research shows that there is an increase in sexually transmitted diseases, infection rates, teen abortions, teen pregnancies and increase in drug and alcohol abuse among teenagers. It is also thought that the rise in teen violence is in due to issues relating to dating problems like jealousy.

Parent’s Guidance

Any parent knows that dating is a significant first step in shaping an individual’s quality of life, but because of an old tradition, they will be reluctant or never teach their children about love relationships and dating. Sometimes, parents tend not to talk about dating but are willing to do everything else for their teen daughters and sons. Teen dating is rampant everywhere in this world. So, instead of shying away from talking about teen dating, parents must teach their teenagers on how to make the right dating decisions.

The parents must open up to their teenagers about teen dating and how to handle relationships. Parents must teach their teenagers what they know. They should not wait for the teens to figure out the complex teen dating puzzles and conflicting opinions. Teens must be guided so that they will understand the myths, the truth, and hidden risks involved in the process of teen dating.

Practical Tips

Teenagers do not know how to react to a date or what to expect from a date when they start out their dating activities. In teen dating, one should bear in mind that it is not a real relationship that will last for the rest of your life. Many teenagers date other teens that are considered popular in their schools. They should remember that teen dating must be about enjoying yourself and about fun. They should not think that it is not a relationship that should be taken seriously.

Teen dating is about having fun but one must set their priorities right. Teenagers must know their limitations especially about sex, alcohol, and drugs. If you’re a teenager, make your stance clear on issues about sex, drugs, and alcohol to your partner and let him or her know where you stand. You should also ensure that you and your partner spend time doing what you both enjoy. You could watch a movie, hang around together, or walk in the park late in the afternoon.