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		<title>Decor can help you wow your mate</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Oct 2009 19:20:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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(ARA) &#8211; When it comes to impressing your mate, forget about diamonds and designer gifts. You’re more likely to snag a date based on your decorating taste than with bling.
A majority of men and women – 88 and 85 percent, respectively – would prefer to receive a room makeover over a pricey pair of diamond [...]


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<p>(ARA) &#8211; When it comes to impressing your mate, forget about diamonds and designer gifts. You’re more likely to snag a date based on your decorating taste than with bling.</p>
<p>A majority of men and women – 88 and 85 percent, respectively – would prefer to receive a room makeover over a pricey pair of diamond earrings or watch, according to the KILZ Roller Report . The annual survey, which polled 1,000 people across the United States and Canada, revealed surprising insights into how men and women perceive home decor in its fifth edition, &#8220;If Your Walls Could Talk.&#8221;</p>
<p>Lisa LaPorta, host and designer of HGTV’s Designed to Sell and Bang for Your Buck, has interpreted the survey results and created some corresponding tips to add personality and appeal to your home’s decor.</p>
<p>&#8220;A person’s home offers insight into who they are and how they live their life, so it’s not surprising that suitors consider the decor of potential mates in the early stages of dating,&#8221; says LaPorta. &#8220;Thankfully, it’s easy to seem design-savvy by making quick updates with inexpensive options that won’t break the bank.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>Men and women want to wine and dine at home</strong><br />
Given the current economy, 56 percent of people would rather dine in with friends than eat out at a restaurant. According to LaPorta, a restaurant’s decor is one of its key draws, and most restaurant designers rely on the same basic ingredients: lighting and color.</p>
<p>&#8220;For less than $100 – often the cost of dinner for two – you can create the same ambiance in your own dining room by replacing overhead fluorescent lights with lamps and candles that create a flattering glow and cast dramatic shadows,&#8221; says LaPorta. &#8220;Choosing neutral, inviting wall colors like warm gray or buttery tan and finishing the look with appetite-stimulating bright red, orange or pink accents will ensure your guests come back for seconds.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>Your apartment speaks volumes<br />
</strong>Sixty-three percent of women consider home decor a key indicator of a man’s personality and maturity level. LaPorta advises guys to lose the dozens of rock ‘n roll posters and sports memorabilia they’ve been collecting since childhood.</p>
<p>&#8220;Select one or two of your favorite pieces and have them professionally matted to make them feel more like one-of-a-kind art than part of a giant collection,&#8221; says LaPorta. &#8220;You may also want to consider rearranging your furniture so oversized TVs aren’t the focal point of the room.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>Ladies, bright wall colors are a buzz kill<br />
</strong>Sixty-six percent of men prefer neutral walls to bolds, so LaPorta suggests that bold wall colors can be intimidating and distracting to a new male suitor.</p>
<p>&#8220;Try giving your space a weekend facelift by changing a bright colored wall to a more appealing tan or beige,&#8221; says LaPorta. &#8220;Start with a high-quality, fast-drying primer like KILZ Premium, which allows for fewer topcoats to hide any traces of your past extravagant paint decisions. Add your own style through colorful accent pieces like paintings, area rugs, floral arrangements and candlesticks.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>Being environmentally responsible is sexy<br />
</strong>Nearly half of men (41 percent) and one-third of women (33 percent) would rather date a person who uses so-called &#8220;eco-friendly&#8221; products, like low- or zero volatile organic compound (VOC) paints, versus one who does not. LaPorta emphasizes that the perception that environmentally-responsible decorating is expensive is a myth.</p>
<p>&#8220;Start small by using a zero VOC primer like KILZ Clean Start and water based paints, which are generally lower in VOC content than conventional solvent based paints (labels will reveal actual VOC content) or switching to compact fluorescent light bulbs,&#8221; says LaPorta. &#8220;These small changes will refresh your home and could have a positive impact on your energy bills and the environment.&#8221;</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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		<title>Romance on a budget – enjoy the great outdoors</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Aug 2009 14:58:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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When incorporating romance into the outdoors, remember a few [...]


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<p>(ARA) &#8211; Champagne, roses and chocolate-covered strawberries spell romance, but all can fade fast. A more innovative and enduring (not to mention budget-conscious) method for adding romance is to bring it outdoors. In fact, your own backyard can be a much more cost-effective and intimate date night.</p>
<p>When incorporating romance into the outdoors, remember a few key points. Generally, the same concepts that work for your home can also be applied to outdoor living spaces.</p>
<p>* The right lighting sets the mood. Gentle lighting, as opposed to harsh fluorescents, exudes romance. Bring indoor traditions like candelabras and miniature chandeliers outside to light your evenings, or hang diffused light via lanterns.</p>
<p>* Use existing furniture and decorate with romantic accessories that match the decor of your home and personality.</p>
<p>* Incorporate elements of fire and water through an outdoor fireplace, waterfall, pond or birdbath. The warmth and sounds will be sure to soothe.</p>
<p>* Outdoor curtains bring both privacy and romance. If your outdoor space is large, curtains help to define a romantic spot from those used for other purposes.</p>
<p>When bringing the indoors out, it is important to keep your climate in mind. Some climates offer year-round comfort. “In Southern California, we have the advantage of climate to allow for the concept of outdoor space as a continuation of the indoor living area,” says Mark Lewison, academic director of Interior Design at The Art Institute of California &#8211; Hollywood. “Due to our warm, dry climate, like that of the Southwest, we can use interior-grade furnishings and extend the more private areas of bathing and sleeping to the outdoors, providing a more hedonistic sensuality to private and lush exterior environments.&#8221;</p>
<p>For climates without year-round comfortable temperatures, additional considerations must be taken. “While Midwesterners enjoy the change of seasons, they also have to tolerate them,” says Mary G. Cain, academic director of Interior Design at The Illinois Institute of Art &#8211; Schaumburg. “To capitalize on enjoyment of outdoor living experiences, spending a little more on durable, quality finishes and furnishings will save space and maximize all-season potential. Many surprising materials and products are available for more volatile outdoor situations, such as furniture made of teak and outdoor rugs made of colorful recycled plastic bottles.”</p>
<p>In addition to utilizing existing home furnishings, the budget-conscious can also acquire items at flea markets, garage sales or through online classified sites for accessories and antiques. Out-of-the-ordinary items repurposed as planters are not only whimsical and easy on the pocketbook but on the environment as well.</p>
<p>Enjoying your redefined outdoor space can bring romance in an unexpected area. Chocolate and champagne are optional.</p>
<p>To learn more about The Art Institutes, visit www.artinstitutes.edu/nz.</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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		<title>Finding relationship refuge with a good night’s sleep</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:08:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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(ARA) &#8211; The hectic pace of day-to-day life shows few signs of slowing; however, the peaceful sanctuary couples are seeking may be closer than they think – in their own bedrooms.
For many of today&#8217;s couples though, the terms &#8220;bedroom&#8221; and &#8220;peaceful sanctuary&#8221; are more an oxymoron than a [...]


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<p>(ARA) &#8211; The hectic pace of day-to-day life shows few signs of slowing; however, the peaceful sanctuary couples are seeking may be closer than they think – in their own bedrooms.</p>
<p>For many of today&#8217;s couples though, the terms &#8220;bedroom&#8221; and &#8220;peaceful sanctuary&#8221; are more an oxymoron than a reality. A recent survey from the National Sleep Foundation found 25 to 33 percent of couples feel their relationships are negatively impacted by their partner’s bad sleep habits, and Tempur-Pedic’s 2009 Wellness Survey supports this notion, finding 61 percent of adults admit they wish the bedroom was a place where they could relax.</p>
<p>All this said, relationship expert and Tempur-Pedic Wellness Advisor Dr. Scott Stanley found that a few simple changes to a couple&#8217;s sleeping habits can ensure their bedroom offers the restful retreat they need. Stanley, a research professor and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver, studies how to improve relationships, with growing attention to the crucial role of being able to get a good night’s sleep.</p>
<p>First and foremost, Stanley says couples need to set the mood for a good night&#8217;s sleep by creating a relaxing, &#8220;conflict-free&#8221; sleeping environment. By keeping the stress of the day on the other side of the bedroom door, partners will be able to achieve the right frame of mind to sufficiently wind down for a restful night, so be sure to shelf anything that may be upsetting for a more appropriate time and place.</p>
<p>&#8220;Good sleep requires your mind and body to be moving into a calmer, settled state,&#8221; says Stanley. &#8220;Conflict, anxiety and stress will interfere with falling and staying asleep. When you feel like you have to be on your guard, you will find it hard to calm down into the state where you most easily fall asleep.&#8221;</p>
<p>Secondly, couples must find a way to deal with common sleep distractions, including regular movement from one&#8217;s partner during sleep. Research has shown sleep movement is more prevalent when sharing a bed, and as such, it is critical for individuals to keep their partner&#8217;s sleep quality in mind. Investing in mattresses that minimize motion transfer, like those in Tempur-Pedic&#8217;s line of Swedish Sleep Systems, allow couples to be close without disturbing each other when moving.</p>
<p>Additionally, different sleeping patterns and schedules can cause couples to imperil what Stanley calls the &#8220;Sleep Zone.&#8221; However, with a little planning, and maybe even some compromise, couples can create a sleep schedule that works for both bedmates – whether they are the lightest of sleepers or the latest of night-owls. Setting a bedtime that works for both parties and establishing a routine allows couples to work around the differences in habits and biology that get them out of sync to begin with. “It’s important to talk openly together – to be a team – about what you each can do to help the other get better sleep,” says Stanley.</p>
<p>Finally, some couples need to tackle the unpleasant issue of snoring – a prevalent bedroom offense. Have a plan for how to handle the situation when it arises. Agreeing ahead of time that it is alright for one&#8217;s partner to roll, poke or wake the snorer can avoid an argument and effectively abbreviate what could otherwise become an all-night snoring session or sleep-disrupting argument.</p>
<p>&#8220;Couples should keep in mind that if snoring is a chronic occurrence, a serious health issue may be to blame,&#8221; warns Stanley. &#8220;Because of this, couples should consult a doctor to ensure the pattern is not a symptom of a more serious problem – and if nothing else, to get some suggestions for how to alleviate the snoring.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Studies have proven that better sleep will benefit your relationship,&#8221; says Stanley. &#8220;If you do all you can to help each of you, individually, get a good night&#8217;s sleep, you will find it easier to be your best for and with each other.&#8221;</p>
<p>For more relationship research, visit www.slidingvsdeciding.com, or to learn more about the Tempur-Pedic sleep experience from satisfied owners, visit www.tempurpedic.com/owners.</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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		<title>Rules For Flirting With a Guy &#8211; Tricks That Will Really Turn His Head</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2009 11:36:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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Is there a set of rules to govern flirting with a guy? Are you aware of how your words and your body language can send messages? Do you want to learn how to show him that you are interested without saying it outright? Men and women have been practicing the art of flirting since the [...]


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<p><a href="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/flirting-opt.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-372" title="flirting-opt" src="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/flirting-opt.jpg" alt="flirting-opt" width="300" height="380" /></a>Is there a set of rules to govern flirting with a guy? Are you aware of how your words and your body language can send messages? Do you want to learn how to show him that you are interested without saying it outright? Men and women have been practicing the art of flirting since the dawn of time. If you have been thinking that only those who are naturals can become great flirters, you are wrong. Anyone can learn the rules of flirting with a guy to make him like you. Here are some tips to help you get started.</p>
<p><strong>Eye contact</strong></p>
<p>Rule number one to successful flirting is making eye contact. How else will he know that you have set your sights on him in the first place? If you let your eyes linger over him for a moment, this can be a very powerful tool to getting the point across that you have noticed him and like what you see. Hold his gaze for a few seconds before you look away.</p>
<p><strong>Dazzle Him</strong></p>
<p>No one can resist a well intentioned smile. It not only lights up your face and makes you look your ultimate best, but it suggests that you have a sunny and fun personality to go along with it. Smiling may seem too common to you to seem like it counts as flirting, but it is actually one of the key elements of successful non-verbal communication.</p>
<p><strong>Appeal to His Senses</strong></p>
<p>When you are ready to take it to the next level of flirtation, heighten his senses by touching him. There is definitely a right and a wrong way to do this and you don&#8217;t want to mess with the wrong way. Never grab him or come on too strong. Instead, lightly brush his arm with your fingers or lean against him for an instant, then move away. You want to stimulate his senses, but then leave him longing to feel your touch again.</p>
<p>Whatever you do, always be natural. Don&#8217;t bat your eyes at him like a cartoon character or fawn all over him as if he were a Greek god. Acting like that shouldn&#8217;t even be called flirting, and he certainly will not find it attractive if you are acting the fool. The most important thing that you can learn about flirting with a guy is to be yourself and be subtle. Less here is always more.</p></div>
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		<title>Pick Up Artist Tips &#8211; Annihilate Approach Anxiety</title>
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Wanting to know how to annihilate approach anxiety is reason in itself to give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulations &#8211; 3 points to you! It&#8217;s not as difficult as you think but it does take a little time but for now you should be confident that you are on the road to becoming [...]


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<p><a href="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/couple-walking-woodland.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-369" title="couple-walking-woodland" src="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/couple-walking-woodland.jpg" alt="couple-walking-woodland" width="283" height="424" /></a>Wanting to know how to annihilate approach anxiety is reason in itself to give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulations &#8211; 3 points to you! It&#8217;s not as difficult as you think but it does take a little time but for now you should be confident that you are on the road to becoming a better pick up artist with what I can tell you here.</p>
<p><strong>So how can you do it?</strong></p>
<p>Well, it goes without saying, no approach, no chance! But it is all well and good saying you need to approach women &#8211; what is causing this invisible barrier of approach anxiety? There are two parts to overcoming approach anxiety though &#8211; the mental part i.e. how you think about the problem, and the practical side of the problem and what practical measures you can take to overcome approach anxiety. I will address the mental aspects in this article.</p>
<p>It is fair to say that over 90% of the problem is in your head. If you are suffering, you need to overcome the way you think about it to become a better pick up artist. The thing is, it&#8217;s you that will is putting up the barriers to approaching women and making yourself anxious about talking to them. Once you realize this, you can make progress towards annihilating your fears.</p>
<p>Firstly, try and get it through your head that the worst thing that can happen is that you will be rejected. But rejection isn&#8217;t a bad thing. It means that you are working towards a better you. Someone who shrugs rejection off &#8211; which is what you must do.</p>
<p>The other thing to remember about rejection is that the women who rejects you is not doing it because of YOU &#8211; she does it because of HER. She cannot possibly generate a fair and balanced assessment of your character and personality from a few moments of an encounter. It is only you that gives someone the power to make you feel bad about rejection. It is not a personal attack, so don&#8217;t let it get to you!</p>
<p>Secondly, fear of embarrassment is another key reason for suffering approach anxiety. Providing you are not approaching a women in a public place surrounded by friends and acquaintances, the only person who will know your embarrassment is YOU! That is probably the main reason you worry so much about approaching women. It goes hand in hand with beating yourself up over rejection. It is simply not important!</p>
<p>Thirdly, don&#8217;t try and use corny pick up lines that are witty and require well timed delivery &#8211; especially if you are expecting a very specific response to make it work. All jokes and witty remarks do is put you under more pressure because you have to get them right to keep your momentum. Get them wrong and before you know it you confidence is blowing down the street like litter on the sidewalk!</p>
<p>Fourthly, stop worrying about the outcome before you have even started talking. There are over three billion women in the world. That is plenty to choose from and just because the one in front of you is very pretty, it doesn&#8217;t mean there isn&#8217;t another beautiful one 50 yards away!</p>
<p>Developing yourself as a person is key to overcoming approach anxiety. If you can see that it is your established mindset that artificially generates approach anxiety, you can easily work towards solving it. Have a good think about how much YOU judge the encounters you have with people every day. Think about how much they raise your emotions or stick in your mind.</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t. And neither do women providing you are polite and courteous and do not pressure them. If you can be pleasant, you can feel confident that you will be treated well by any woman you approach. If you start acting like a jerk and stalking women, you will be on a hiding to nowhere.</p></div>
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<p>So how do you progress from this? The answers to annihilating approach anxiety lie in <a id="link_93" href="http://pick-up-artist-secrets.com/pick-up-artist-tips-practical-measures-for-annihilating-approach-anxiety/" target="_new">practical measures</a>. There is more information on other aspects of becoming a better pick up artist at my blog; <a id="link_94" href="http://pick-up-artist-secrets.com/" target="_new">http://pick-up-artist-secrets.com</a></div>
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		<title>Dating: Saying &#8220;No&#8221; is Not Rejection</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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How many people do you know who can not tell someone they are dating that they do not want to see them any more?
How many couples do you know who continue to date, are not making a commitment and one or both of them are miserable being together?
Why do you suppose that intelligent, capable and [...]


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<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-366" title="couple-rs" src="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/couple-rs.jpg" alt="couple-rs" width="240" height="360" />How many people do you know who can not tell someone they are dating that they do not want to see them any more?</p>
<p>How many couples do you know who continue to date, are not making a commitment and one or both of them are miserable being together?</p>
<p>Why do you suppose that intelligent, capable and otherwise successful men and women do not tell the truth when they no longer want to spend time together and build a life with another person?</p>
<p>Men and women from the U.S. and Canada to the U.K. to Australia and New Zealand tell me the very same thing:</p>
<p>· I can’t tell him that I don’t want to be with him anymore…it sounds so mean</p>
<p>· I don’t want to hurt her feelings</p>
<p>· I can’t just reject him, he’s such a nice guy</p>
<p>· She won’t understand…she’ll be so upset and she’s very sweet</p>
<p>· People say I’m being too picky…that I am actually very lucky to be dating such a wonderful…</p>
<p>Please remember you are dating. Dating is a process. You are dating to find your ideal match. Recognizing that the men and women you are dating are not a match for you is the point of the process.</p>
<p>It is highly likely that you will date a number of people who will not be your ideal match before you and the love of your life find each other. As soon as you recognize that your date is not your ideal match, stop the dating process.</p>
<p>You will not be the ideal match for the overwhelming majority of people who date you! When men or women you date recognize that you are not a match for them, they will (hopefully) stop the dating process…they will stop dating you.</p>
<p>There is no “rejecting” or “rejection” going on here. No one is being mean or hurting the feelings of others when one stops dating someone who is not the ideal match. Mindful adults are making mindful decisions with volition and intention about the “who” and the “how” of the rest of their lives. It is as simple as that.</p>
<p>Go out, keep dating and don’t settle or accept good enough. Your ideal love is a very special man or woman who will not be interchangeable with anyone else.</p>
<p>Trust that it can be fabulous; that you can have what you want!<br />
Say goodbye as soon as you know what you know, deep in the place where you know it!</p>
<p>Remember, only YOU can make it happen!</p>
<p>Copyright Dr. Jackie Black 1999-2005</p>
<p>If you like this article, please read more about<br />
<a id="link_89" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.drjackieblack.com/" target="_new">Dr. Jackie’s relationship dating advice and help for issues and problems</a>.</div>
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<p>Dr. Jackie is an internationally recognized relationship expert, educator and coach. Advice and coaching about personal relationships is Dr. Jackie&#8217;s passion. Her goal is to inspire and support single men, single women and couples through the challenges and pitfalls of dating, loving and building lasting, committed relationships in today&#8217;s fast-paced world. Dr. Jackie&#8217;s Relationship Coaching Programs and Groups, her Blog, downloadable PodCasts and her Internet streaming radio show are jam-packed with valuable dating tips and strategies.</p>
<p>Check out Dr. Jackie&#8217;s Podcasts here: <a id="link_90" href="http://www.relationshiptalkpodcast.com/" target="_new">http://www.relationshiptalkpodcast.com</a></p>
<p>Check out Dr. Jackie&#8217;s Blog here: <a id="link_91" href="http://www.askdrjackie.com/" target="_new">http://www.askdrjackie.com </a></div>
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		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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(ARA) &#8211; Summer is all about spontaneous getaways, romantic interludes and young love, but the current economic condition can take its toll on your relationship. With financial stresses at an all time high, it&#8217;s often easy to put your romance on the backburner. In fact, 43 percent of U.S. [...]


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<p>(ARA) &#8211; Summer is all about spontaneous getaways, romantic interludes and young love, but the current economic condition can take its toll on your relationship. With financial stresses at an all time high, it&#8217;s often easy to put your romance on the backburner. In fact, 43 percent of U.S. couples say the recession has caused them to argue more often and primarily about finances, according to a recent survey by PayPal.</p>
<p>&#8220;Everyone is looking for ways to cope with the recession &#8212; whether it&#8217;s dinner on a budget, staying on top of your game at work, or cutting back on travel, and in the midst of trying to find these solutions, relationships are sometimes the first thing that suffers,&#8221; says Microsoft senior product manager, Karin Muskopf. &#8220;MSN.com put together a recession survival kit that offers our readers simple tips for coping with the stress of the economy, including a special section with tips and tricks on how to keep your relationship fresh and stress-free during the tough times.&#8221;</p>
<p>There are also some interesting ways to keep spending to a minimum and fun to a maximum, such as date night ideas for under $15.</p>
<p>* <strong>Watching the Sun Set</strong>: Like our love lives, it&#8217;s easy to overlook the beautiful things that happen around us every day. Watch the sun go down and share kisses under the stars.<br />
Blanket to sit on: $6<br />
Sunglasses: $2/each at your local drugstore<br />
Lemonade: $1/each<br />
Total: $15</p>
<p>* <strong>People-watching</strong>: Not all dates have to be steamy. Simply spending time together is what dating is all about. Pick a beautiful day to sit on a bench in a park and marvel at the wonders of nature.<br />
Bottle of wine: $8<br />
Plastic cups: $3<br />
Bench: free<br />
Marveling at the wonders of the public: More fun than you think<br />
Total: $11</p>
<p>* <strong>Movie Night with Friends</strong>: Miss the wild abandon of your college days? Have the gang over for beers and movie &#8212; but save the make-out session for later.<br />
Renting &#8220;Old School&#8221;: $5<br />
Inviting your friends over: free<br />
Going old school and having people throw in beer money at the door: awesome<br />
Going streaking through the quad: optional<br />
Popcorn for 20: $10<br />
Total: $15</p>
<p>Other simple and affordable tips from MSN include:</p>
<p>* <strong>Stay on the same team</strong>: Remember you are not mad at each other, you are mad at the invisible enemy &#8212; money. Expressing disagreement, distress, and anger is part of problem solving. But, there&#8217;s healthy confrontation and then there&#8217;s kicking someone when he or she is down. Use your fingers for grabbing hands and holding on, not pointing. You&#8217;re in this together.</p>
<p>* <strong>Withdraw your identity from your bank account</strong>: We measure a lot in this society by the wealth a person appears to have. When it feels like the rest of the world is looking down, be the one who keeps your mate&#8217;s chin up. Affirm other kinds of success: friendship, parenting, a talent. Everyone needs to hear the words, &#8220;I believe in you,&#8221; and more so in times of self-doubt.</p>
<p>* <strong>Maintain a one-man-down policy with each other</strong>: If one is feeling depressed or anxious, the other has to stay up on his or her end of the seesaw.</p>
<p>* <strong>Reach out</strong>: Let friends and family in on what is going on with you and your financial situation. It will open the door to a flood of support. Admitting you are vulnerable will allow others to let down their own facade of &#8220;fine, thank you.&#8221;</p>
<p>* <strong>Take time out from worry</strong>: As with checking accounts, you aren&#8217;t always able to put into your relationship what is taken out. It&#8217;s hard to afford romance and intimacy when you are consumed by worry. Set aside time for you and your significant other, to enjoy time-out from worry.</p>
<p>* <strong>Always kiss each other good night</strong>: Don&#8217;t let the magic fade with overpowering conversations of the economic downturn, keep the romance alive, and never forget to kiss each other good night.</p>
<p>For additional tips on how to survive the recession, check out the MSN Recession Survival Guide at savings.msn.com.</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I just ran across a great post at BeingFrugal.net &#8211; 7 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Money - an article that touches on some very important points, especially considering that finance problems are a leading cause of divorce!


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just ran across a great post at BeingFrugal.net &#8211; <a href="http://beingfrugal.net/2008/02/08/marriage-and-money/" target="_blank">7 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Money</a> - an article that touches on some very important points, especially considering that finance problems are a leading cause of divorce!</p>


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		<title>This is Not Your Grandfather&#8217;s Funeral</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Aug 2008 03:47:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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“In recent years, funeral services have gone from a more formal or structured service with religious music, scripture, prayers and little or no information [...]


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<p>The next time you attend a funeral, don’t be surprised if it more closely resembles the last wedding you went to than the somber farewell you bid your grandfather 20 years ago.</p>
<p>“In recent years, funeral services have gone from a more formal or structured service with religious music, scripture, prayers and little or no information regarding the life of the deceased to a celebration of a life remembered through various means of personalization,” says Billy C. Wells, the chief executive officer at Geo. H. Lewis &amp; Sons Funeral Home, a premier Dignity Memorial funeral service provider in Houston, Texas. Wells has either handled or helped arrange hundreds of funerals in his nearly 50 years in the industry, and says those held in recent years are a lot more memorable than those of yesteryear.</p>
<p>“The key to turning a funeral into a celebration of the life lost,” he says, “is the personalization which allows and encourages the family, their friends and visitors, to talk about the deceased and how he or she relates to the personalization items on display.”</p>
<p>Here’s just a small sampling of some of the more unique funerals Wells has seen recently:</p>
<p>* At a funeral for a well-known concert pianist, instead of having a casket for the visitation, the family opted to have a Steinway and Sons piano moved to the gallery of the funeral home and the florist created a huge spray of white flowers cascading from the strings of the piano onto a large carpeting of flowers surrounding the piano.</p>
<p>* For one visitation family members brought in items related to the deceased’s work as a professional horseman. Saddles, boots, numerous square bales of hay, partial fence structures, even a live horse in a make-shift temporary corral, transformed much of the décor of the funeral home.</p>
<p>* The florist turned the funeral home chapel altar into a hunting blind because the deceased was an avid hunter, and his hunting dogs were nearby in hunting position.</p>
<p>“By focusing the funeral on things the deceased enjoyed, as well as the experiences shared throughout his or her life, it encourages the sharing of stories and discussions of the deceased, and in some instances, may allow the family to learn of specials things about their loved one that otherwise they may have never known,” says Wells.</p>
<p>In addition to personalization, other changes that characterize the modern day funeral:</p>
<p>* The music is no longer strictly religious hymns. It includes the favorite music of the deceased.</p>
<p>* Receptions at the funeral home, or the family’s home after the service are more the case today than the exception. Many times they are elaborate catered events with entertainment.</p>
<p>* There used to be a time when photos were considered inappropriate. Today, it is commonplace to have video tributes, memory boards with selected photos, and even interactive voice tributes from friends or uploaded video tributes made at the funeral home during the visitation.</p>
<p>“Funeral services are changing to meet the needs of a generation that has different ideas about life &#8212; and about death,” comments Tom Hendler of the Dignity Memorial network of funeral, cremation and cemetery service providers. “This is not your grandfather’s funeral. You can expect more, demand more and we can meet those demands. Our service standards go beyond expectation, to a level of service that actually surprises families because it is so far beyond what they imagined.”</p>
<p>For more information about the services available at modern day funerals, log on to www.dignitymemorial.com.</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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		<title>Make Two Company, Not a Crowd</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Aug 2008 03:43:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
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“Moving in together is a huge step,” says relationship expert Dennie Hughes of USAWeekend.com. “And, if ‘commitment’ is the ultimate goal, two other ‘C words’ will come into play – communication [...]


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div id="attachment_351" class="wp-caption aligncenter" style="width: 490px"><a href="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/7551_b249_rgb.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-351" title="7551_b249_rgb" src="http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/7551_b249_rgb.jpg" alt="The new Muirfield suite from Moen features a single-handle shower faucet and a single-handle tub/shower faucet with a large showerhead that creates a wider spray pattern for a great showering experience through full-body coverage." width="480" height="360" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">The new Muirfield suite from Moen features a single-handle shower faucet and a single-handle tub/shower faucet with a large showerhead that creates a wider spray pattern for a great showering experience through full-body coverage.</p></div>
<p>No matter how well you think you know your partner, living under the same roof can reveal a whole new side of your significant other.</p>
<p>“Moving in together is a huge step,” says relationship expert Dennie Hughes of USAWeekend.com. “And, if ‘commitment’ is the ultimate goal, two other ‘C words’ will come into play – communication and compromise.”</p>
<p>While you may be ready to share your lives together, you may not be ready to share everything. Adjusting to your partner’s habits, quirks and little annoyances can be a challenge &#8230; and learning to share space is often the biggest obstacle. Before your living situation goes down the drain, think about separating &#8212; your stuff, that is.</p>
<p>Here are some tips to update your bedroom and bathroom to help ease the transition of living together.</p>
<p><strong>Give Your Bed Some Room</strong><br />
When you move in, so do all your belongings. Help prevent space wars by using separate closets and dressers. This way, you and your partner can organize clothing, shoes and personal items with your own personal style and comfort. If your new home doesn’t have two closets, be sure to update the single closet with an organization system. Companies such as California Closets will customize storage solutions that will help give you both some breathing room.</p>
<p>While hogging the covers or tossing and turning is acceptable when alone, this can be frustrating for your partner … and make him or her wake up on the wrong side of the bed after a night of interrupted sleep. For a simple solution, purchase top sheets and blankets that are one size bigger than your mattress. And if budget permits, invest in a mattress that absorbs motion, like a Tempur-Pedic, so you won’t be disturbed when your partner tosses, turns or gets out of bed.</p>
<p><strong>Achieving Bathroom Bliss</strong><br />
Gobs of toothpaste left in the sink is a top bathroom annoyance, according to a research study conducted on behalf of Moen Incorporated by Harris Interactive. So, don’t sweat these small things &#8212; split them!</p>
<p>Separate sink space helps eliminate tensions and makes getting ready with your partner easier. Stylish choices, such as Moen’s new Muirfield bathroom faucet, available at Lowe’s, offer a variety of options from single- and two-handle designs; standard-, mid- or high-arc spouts; and a variety of finishes to meet both of your design preferences. Plus, you and your partner can feel good knowing that the water-saving Muirfield faucets are WaterSense certified, meaning they meet the Environmental Protection Agency’s (EPA) guidelines as environmentally responsible and efficient products.</p>
<p>In addition to splitting the sink area, be sure to install two of each bathroom accessory, such as the Ridgedale bath accessory collection from Inspirations by Moen. Separate robe hooks and towel bars ensure you each have your own personal space for your personal belongings.</p>
<p>Be sure to continue your organization into the shower, especially since for men, the number one shower pet peeve is having too many items. For a quick and easy solution, install shower baskets to provide convenient storage for shampoos and soaps, and remove clutter from around the tub.</p>
<p>Nothing ruins your mood in the shower quite like a weak spray. So, keep your partner happy with a superior showerhead that delivers a satisfying experience every time. The Muirfield suite, available from Moen in today’s most popular finishes, also features a single-handle shower faucet and a single-handle tub/shower faucet with a large showerhead that creates a wider spray pattern for a great showering experience through full-body coverage.</p>
<p><strong>Couples That Share Together &#8230;</strong><br />
Although dividing the bedroom and bathroom helps smooth the transition of living together, don’t forget about the little things to ease common pet peeves. Be conscientious &#8212; restock the tissues and toilet paper when low, put the cap back on the toothpaste and make sure to clear counter space after your morning routine. Place dirty clothes in the hamper and make the bed together. Finally, designate an afternoon to clean together, and then celebrate your spotless home with a relaxing and romantic evening of quality time and communication.</p>
<p>With just a few minor adjustments and updates to your bed and bath, you can make the transition of living together easy and move toward your happily ever after.</p>
<p>For more information on the Muirfield bathroom suite or other Moen products, visit www.moen.com or call (800) BUY-MOEN (800-289-6636).</p>
<p>Courtesy of ARAcontent</p>


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