Wanting to know how to annihilate approach anxiety is reason in itself to give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulations – 3 points to you! It’s not as difficult as you think but it does take a little time but for now you should be confident that you are on the road to becoming a better pick up artist with what I can tell you here.

So how can you do it?

Well, it goes without saying, no approach, no chance! But it is all well and good saying you need to approach women – what is causing this invisible barrier of approach anxiety? There are two parts to overcoming approach anxiety though – the mental part i.e. how you think about the problem, and the practical side of the problem and what practical measures you can take to overcome approach anxiety. I will address the mental aspects in this article.

It is fair to say that over 90% of the problem is in your head. If you are suffering, you need to overcome the way you think about it to become a better pick up artist. The thing is, it’s you that will is putting up the barriers to approaching women and making yourself anxious about talking to them. Once you realize this, you can make progress towards annihilating your fears.

Firstly, try and get it through your head that the worst thing that can happen is that you will be rejected. But rejection isn’t a bad thing. It means that you are working towards a better you. Someone who shrugs rejection off – which is what you must do.

The other thing to remember about rejection is that the women who rejects you is not doing it because of YOU – she does it because of HER. She cannot possibly generate a fair and balanced assessment of your character and personality from a few moments of an encounter. It is only you that gives someone the power to make you feel bad about rejection. It is not a personal attack, so don’t let it get to you!

Secondly, fear of embarrassment is another key reason for suffering approach anxiety. Providing you are not approaching a women in a public place surrounded by friends and acquaintances, the only person who will know your embarrassment is YOU! That is probably the main reason you worry so much about approaching women. It goes hand in hand with beating yourself up over rejection. It is simply not important!

Thirdly, don’t try and use corny pick up lines that are witty and require well timed delivery – especially if you are expecting a very specific response to make it work. All jokes and witty remarks do is put you under more pressure because you have to get them right to keep your momentum. Get them wrong and before you know it you confidence is blowing down the street like litter on the sidewalk!

Fourthly, stop worrying about the outcome before you have even started talking. There are over three billion women in the world. That is plenty to choose from and just because the one in front of you is very pretty, it doesn’t mean there isn’t another beautiful one 50 yards away!

Developing yourself as a person is key to overcoming approach anxiety. If you can see that it is your established mindset that artificially generates approach anxiety, you can easily work towards solving it. Have a good think about how much YOU judge the encounters you have with people every day. Think about how much they raise your emotions or stick in your mind.

You don’t. And neither do women providing you are polite and courteous and do not pressure them. If you can be pleasant, you can feel confident that you will be treated well by any woman you approach. If you start acting like a jerk and stalking women, you will be on a hiding to nowhere.