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Oct 11 2008

Telltale Signs that You are Over-dating

Published by Author at 9:40 am under Christian Dating

Unfortunately, there are times during which a person can over-date and spend too much time going out and not enough time focusing on his or her own life. When a person is going out seven nights a week, they will likely notice that certain things are put on the backburner. However, some things should not be allowed to be put off, especially if it is just to go out on some casual dates. Even if a couple is serious, they still need to understand that they will still need some time to themselves in order to make sure that everything they have to do for themselves is not being neglected.

If you find that your own work load, home, school work load, or personal desires are being neglected, which is leaving you unable to take care of your life to the extent you would otherwise be able to, in order to go out and socialize with one specific or even multiple dating partners, it is very likely that you are over-dating. Some people are able to dedicate all of this time to dating, and are still capable of managing their otherwise meager lives, but most of us have our own things to deal with.

Your life just cannot stop because you think you have found someone that is great and you want to spend every second with him or her. By thinking about this logically, you can see that if you let your own life slide for this person, if they ever leave you, your life will be empty and void, since before that it revolved around this other person. If you find yourself obsessive over one or more people and find that you are thinking about them more than you are thinking about the things you have to do for you, you may want to scale it back a bit for the sake of your own well-being.

Here is another telltale sign that you are investing too much time and energy in dates, and not enough in your own life or in nurturing the relationships that you already have with friends and family members. If you have ever cancelled long standing plans with friends or family members, either because they did not want you to bring along your new date for whatever reason, or because your date did not want to take part in whatever the plan was, it is very important that the individual realize that they are not giving the proper amount of thought to planning these situations since they are clearly taking advantage of their previously existing relationships in order to try to force intimacy and closeness with another person, instead of taking care of their own life in manners they would ordinarily take part in.

Additionally, if you find yourself being overly forgetful when it comes to certain demands, such as taking care of your plants or pet animals, you really need to get your act together and fully examine your life before someone or something gets really hurt. These are the things that everyone needs to continue to make sure that they are able to look back at their life and easily objectively review how their life is before dating as compared to how their life is after they are dating someone or many people either seriously or not. When a person can see that their life is not where they want it to be, they have to have the strength to see the truth and make the changes that will need to be made in order to make their life more positive and responsible when it comes to their own needs and desires.