http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/2008/06/10/divorce-cases-involving-children/ Relationships - Dating, Marriage, Families, and More Sun, 23 Nov 2008 19:51:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/2008/06/10/divorce-cases-involving-children/#comment-135 Laura Mon, 16 Jun 2008 14:56:37 +0000 http://relationships.savvy-cafe.com/2008/06/10/divorce-cases-involving-children/#comment-135 Easier said than done. My ex has apparently never read a book on how to behave after divorce or read a blog on how to talk about your ex around the children. He is continually putting me down in front of them, cursing at me, and belittling me--all reasons for the divorce in the first place. Initially, I tried the ignore tactic. But then I realize that I am perpetuating whatever he is saying about me. Since then I have calmly stated the facts to my daughters, so that they can at least hear a rebuttal from me, and not my silence to his nastiness. Is it better for my daughters? I hope so. How much can they see a person downtrodden without getting up? Which is the better message: to turn the other cheek until you suffer whiplash or to open your mouth and talk? Easier said than done. My ex has apparently never read a book on how to behave after divorce or read a blog on how to talk about your ex around the children. He is continually putting me down in front of them, cursing at me, and belittling me–all reasons for the divorce in the first place. Initially, I tried the ignore tactic. But then I realize that I am perpetuating whatever he is saying about me. Since then I have calmly stated the facts to my daughters, so that they can at least hear a rebuttal from me, and not my silence to his nastiness. Is it better for my daughters? I hope so. How much can they see a person downtrodden without getting up? Which is the better message: to turn the other cheek until you suffer whiplash or to open your mouth and talk?

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